By Laura Smith, Chief Groovy Chick at The Breakup Lounge
Here's a question I recently received from Karen:
Q: Hi, Laura. This is more of an OMG. I am feeling sorry for myself but here we go: My fiance of two years and I just recently split up. I have two children from a previous relationship but they have called him Dad a good majority of the time. Maybe a bad move on my part?
All he can say is that he is happier, that I need to move on and that he's not going to allow me to guilt trip him into continuing a relationship with the kids. This is coming from a man who talked about adopting them at one point.
I am caught in a world of hurt. Sometimes, the pain is just unbearable. I'm left wondering how he could just move on and not care about the kids.
I though maybe you could help me understand and work through this. ~ Karen
A: Oh, Karen, My Darling, I completely understand that you're dealing with a lot right now.
I'm certain that your pain is coming from not only your own loss of the relationship but also how his absence is affecting your children.