by Guest Blogger, Lena West, Chief Social Media Strategist at xynoMedia Technology
Usually when we see the words 'Fair Use' , we expect that someone is going to be talking about Fair Use or copyright infringement. All important things, but not this time.
What about the Fair Use of someone's life?
I recently wrote a post on my new InfoWorld blog titled, "What's Wrong with Social Media?" and one of the challenges I listed was that being active in social media makes one a more visible personality and by virtue of this fact, odd people can become attracted to you in odd ways. (Hold your email and read that again, please - I am NOT saying that social media creates stalkers.)
I was interviewed for a radio show last year. The person who interviewed me, let's call her Alice, was as straight of an arrow as there ever was. She had policies and procedures, release forms, etc. for the show. A real pro...
The interview went well and she thought that we could work on some projects/ideas together and set up a time for us to chat. She missed the first call - hey, could happen to anyone and then she was late for our rescheduled chat. I never returned her call or her email. If you know me, you know I don't play around with my time. If people don't respect their time, it shows a lack of self-esteem and I don't want to start a new relationship with someone who is not on solid footing.
Then something weird started happening...
Everywhere I went, she went. She started writing for some of the same publications. She started commenting on the same blogs. She started conversations with people whom, in passing, I mentioned I knew. She joined some of the same virtual communities.
Things just got strange.
I was speaking with a long-time industry pal the other day and I asked her if this had ever happened to her and if she could help me figure out if/when I should say something directly to Alice.
Although she admitted that it had never happened to her, she thought I might be confusing someone who was trying to emulate my success with a stalker-in-the-making. No such luck. Alice had definitely gone too far.
Then my friend suggested that I send her an email and directly confront her. As you know, I don't have a problem having hard conversations with anyone, but would I be jumping the gun just a bit? That's kind of like telling a guy you don't like him before he makes his move.
To be clear, I don't think Alice is violent at all...she's just trying to be a little too much like me.
Bottomline: what would you do if you were me? Sit back and see what happens or send Alice an email and tell her to buzz off and risk looking like a stuck-up idiot who's read too much of her own press?