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Do you want to have Sundays?

by Guest Blogger, Lena West, Chief Social Media Strategist at xynoMedia

I thought long and hard about writing this blog post today. It's rare that I explain myself to people. You either "get" me or you don't. And, I'm woman enough to realize that if you don't "get" me, it's SOOOO not personal.

I'm also really an introvert so, I don't much care if you don't "get" me. :) If you think of an introvert as a quiet, mousy doormat, I strongly encourage you to think again.

Wantsundays_2 Anyway, I figured, "Ah, a little explanation never hurt anyone!"

You see, I've always been the one who always says what everyone else is thinking, but is too scared/intimidated/not-their-style to say. I find it interesting that people either love me or dislike me for that. And, by one definition, I am Person 10.

That said, people who want to "slow down" simply don't read/enjoy my posts on this blog. My approach to life and business just isn't a fit for them. That's all good. A big part of blogging is having a point of view. I'm sure we've all read blogs where there is absolutely no POV. *Yawn.* Doesn't mean you have to agree with me, I am, after all, but one person.

If you know anything about me at all, you know I'm all about the pursuit of excellence - not perfection - but excellence.
And, you might have also picked up that I work smart, I play VERY hard and I don't do ANYTHING I don't want to (which is good and bad, but it's me). And, I want my readers to feel free to do what THEY feel is best for them. My posts on this blog are mere input streams.

The truth is, you can get average advice anywhere on just about any other blog. I don't live in Averageville and I totally understand that this pains some people. Oh, I "get" it.

The advice/information/perspective I offer on this blog is targeted specifically to people who want to take their lives/careers/businesses higher, higher, higher.

Usually when I get comments like "it's not that serious" or "slow down", it's because that person isn't ready to take the next step in their lives for whatever reason. As one of my good friends would say, "Everybody can't go." And, believe you me, for a long time, I didn't "go".

Oh, and one more thing...as a point of clarification for future posts or G.P. or whatever, I don't believe in "can't". I believe that people do what they want to do and if/when they want to do something different, they will. So, for those who say they "can't" take four vacations per year (and if that is indeed a wish or goal of theirs), I say it's because they just don't want to bad enough.

So, if you "don't have Sundays" anymore, it's simply because you don't want to "have Sundays".
*I* have Sundays - and any other day I want and if *I* can have it...well, you know the rest. It's all about what you don't want and more importantly what you DO want.

That's a hard fact to face, but the sooner people realize they're in their own way, the sooner they can get out of the way, if they so choose. Sadly, some people stay in the same "can't" place their whole lives and that, of course, is their right.

My spirit, however, won't be fenced in. That's just not how I roll. In the words of Jill Scott....


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Lena L. West


I like that saying, Mary! "Just chose not to play." Love it!


Thanks for the kind words! I'm glad you like that saying. As I said, I wish I could claim it but my friend says that ALL the time. I "stole" it from him about 10 years ago.

Thanks to you both for reading and commenting,



Indeed. One of the fundamentals of "growing up" is understanding that you have choices in everything. While we certainly can't control what other people do in many cases, we can control how we act and react. And, we can choose to simply not play - it's a real game changer! (One of the reasons I believe women start their own businesses at twice the rate of men.)

P.S. I too have Sundays (and sometimes long weekend.)


"Everybody can't go"--I'm clearly using that tomorrow LOL. I love your voice. Great post!

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