Guest blog by Blog Manager Robbi Hess
I recently took a 2,400 mile cross country road trip and because of that I had a lot of time alone in the car with talk radio. I imagine it was in response to Mother's Day, but most of the talk show hosts seemed focused on how we mothers have "failed our daughters" or have "forced Hollywood standards" upon them. That got me to thinking about my own daughter. Had I failed her? Let's review.
Let's see, when my daughter was born, I did not breast feed. I know that in light of the recent Times Magazine cover and article I apparently did her a disservice. Frankly, I found the idea a bit ooky so couldn't do it. She survived and thrived on formula, she and I bonded as did she and her father, and she has no health issues. Dodged a bullet there!
Onto the dream (actually my dream) of seeing my daughter dance. I was born with no sense of rhythm and a decided lack of coordination so I figured that when I had a daughter I'd live vicariously through her dancing on stage. She joined jazz. Hated it. Quit. Then it was onto tap dancing. Never made it to a recital. Quit. Finally, it was time to try ballet. Tiny ballet slippers, pink leotard and tutu. She was adorable, but said she didn't want to dance on stage. Just a phase, right? Once the recital came, she'd be dancing alongside her friends. Wrong again. Recital day came and she stood there, arms crossed, saying, "I told you I didn't want to." Sigh, more of my dreams shattered! I apparently was no Dance Mom.
Now that she's a young woman I stand back and look at her accomplishments. She graduated high school early, sampled almost every extra curricular offered, traveled with drum corps, has held down jobs, is attending college, helps out and visits her grandparents. Hhhmmm Could it be that because I didn't force Hollywood standards on her and let her be her own girl/young woman (well, except for the dancing!) I just might be in the good mother camp!
Happy Mother's Day and on that day I will also be celebrating the amazing job I apparently did with my child!