Using Design the Life you Love step by step guide, you, too, can design the life you love.
This is Time for Books with Yvonne DiVita, a weekly book review series. This month, in March, we are studying Design the Life You Love by Ayse Birsel, a simple, but profound, look at using design principles to become the person you want to be. And you don't have to know anything about being a 'designer'. I promise!
I'm so thrilled with the way this book helps me understand myself, I had to share it with all of you. It's not a self-help book spouting quotes from ancient (or even recent) spiritual guides, with keen insight about life and love.
It's a workbook. You have to put in the time, if you want to get the results. As my favorite guy, Casey, on Texas Flip and Move likes to say, "You have to risk it to get the biscuit."
In this case, you're spending approximately 20 minutes at a time, to both learn more about yourself and what you want out of life, as much as how to redesign your future to fit what you discover in the process of your 'deconstruction'. As you will learn, it's necessary to deconstruct before you can reconstruct. It's when you truly give yourself the time to peer inside, into your lost dreams and desires, that you discover who you are and how to move forward, on your path, not someone else's. (I love how Ayse compares it to making soup!)
To follow along with this book, to keep up with me, you'll need these things (as outlined by the author of the book, on page 36)
- Your book (go ahead and buy it, I don't get anything from clicking the links - I didn't even get the book for free, which I often do; this time Tom bought it and gave it to me - I have yet to give it back!)
- A favorite pen or pencil
- Optimism and playfulness
- A cup of coffee or tea
- A comfortable place at home or in a cafe
- Some music, if you'd like
- 20 minutes at a time
You will discover, once you have your own copy of the book, that you are invited to write in the book. The author invites you to do your work in the book itself. She leaves blank pages just for that! I admit, as noted in the video, that I resist writing in books at all. Maybe you do, too. In that case, have a notebook handy.
As we move on to the actual job of designing our lives, the lives we love, here are the four steps involved:
Step 1 Deconstruct your life
Step 2 Form a POV of your life
Step 3 Reconstruct your life
Step 4 Express your life as a new design
And, as you'll see in the video, it really is just like making soup. (or cookies)
Enjoy the video. Let me know what you think. Leave a comment. And don't forget to share with friends. This is a collaborative effort, from start to finish. As we women in our second (or third or fourth) act know, it's easier to do things together, than to try and do them alone.
I'm busy designing the life I love. I invite you to join me, because I am so interested in the life you're designing, out of the deconstruction and reconstruction of your point of view.